Your Dreams: Whose Are They Really?

by Dr. Christopher on June 27, 2010

One of the most adventurous things left to us is to go to bed. For no one can lay a hand on our dreams. ~ E. V. Lucas

When you sleep and dream, and wake up the following morning, what are those things that give you the most happiness?  What do you really want?  Cars, houses, vacations?  What do you dream of having?  The ability to garden all day, to move without pain, or a home in Hawaii?  What do you imagine to happen in your lifetime both for yourself and for others?  To be a stand-up comedian, a musician, or run for governor? 

Do your everyday pursuits MATCH your desires and dreams?  What are those things you pursue in your everyday life?  Those things that you spend time at work making money for and the activities you choose to do outside of work?  What are the things that you honestly think you are going to obtain and are going to happen in your lifetime? 

 Have American cultural desires swayed your desires and dreams? We, as humans, have a need to fit into our community.  Culture imprints on us certain desires that make us think we want them: extraordinary amounts of wealth, to look like a super-model, to enjoy pop music and reality television, and to be the type of person that is just like everyone else.  These things are ok, but are they yours? 

Has your family told you what your desires and dreams are?  Are they things that your family wants you to have?  Do you want to go to school to be a lawyer or an executive on wall-street like your parents have pushed you to?  Do you want health for yourself as your children pester you to eat better and exercise or do you want to continue living the lifestyle you’ve chosen, seeking pleasure in foods and vacation on the couch?  Again, any choice is ok as long as you have chosen it and you understand all of the parameters of that choice.  But we can’t let our own families try to point us in the “right” direction supposedly for our own good. 

Most people are ingrained with the desires of OTHERS without really asking themselves if they really, in fact, want those things.

 All too often, people degrade the value of our own dreams and deem them selfish or unobtainable.  It is much more comfortable to want things that other people tell us to want.  The truth is, no matter what they may be, our dreams are gifts, not curses.  They are the world’s way of attempting to become real.  It is your job to listen to your desires, dreams, thoughts, inspiring moments, and to ACT OUT those things to become real.  After all, the world will benefit by you making your dream a reality. 

Choosing the dreams and desires that give you inspiration is the first step in creating your world and your life.  From desire, the creative process is fueled.  You begin to work on the life of your dreams by choosing them, then working on your mindset: 

  1. Beliefs
  2. Thoughts
  3. Actions & Habits

 You can then apply certain concepts to your mindset to strengthen it and bring you further along on the dream-making process.  To name a few:

  • Faith
  • Persistence
  • Autosuggestion
  • Imagination
  • Organized Planning

 By choosing our desires, we are able to remember the reason we get up every morning.  We are able chip away at our daily lives with inspiration and passion instead of wishing our time away at our jobs. 

No person has the right to rain on your dreams. ~ Marian Wright Edelman

I challenge you to pursue your deepest dreams instead of what others wish for you.  If you choose your past lifestyle, tell your kids that you are going to continue to eat and sit as you did.  They may not like it, but they should respect your wish to live in a way that makes you happiest.  If you choose health, pursue that desire by respecting it, starting to implement healthier choices in how we eat, move, and think. 

What about your job?  Do you love being there?  If not, is it at least a means to an end?  Choose your job based on some desire.

And your hobbies?  Do you actually enjoy sitting in front of the television for hours at a time or does it give you stress afterwards?  Do you spend time doing things that fulfill some purpose and bring you closer to achieving that desire?  Perhaps you want to be an amazing piano player.  Well, practicing the piano is the only way to get you closer to achieving that desire. 

Your dreams and desires are the world’s gift to not only you, but to the people of the world.  Living with purpose allows you to be happiest and most compassionate.  You offer the world a service.  By living according to the desires of our culture or our family, we suppress the world’s gift by never giving it a chance.  Our lives lose energy and inspiration, causing us to not serve the world in ways that we were meant to.  Choose based on YOUR DESIRES and watch your dreams start to trickle into your life!

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