Whoever you think crucified Jesus, crashed those planes into the World Trade Center Buildings, and killed Santa Claus and maybe even the Easter Bunny …
Didn’t do it alone.
I did it too.
Santa and the Easter Bunny aren’t really dead. But if they were and somebody was responsible, it would be me.
I did not literally drive a nail through Jesus’s hand or hijack those planes or sabotage Santa’s sleigh.
But still, I accept responsibility for all of these catastrophes happening.
You might want to think about accepting responsibility too.
Any good butterfly would.
The Butterfly Who Didn’t Know She Had Wings
There are two types of people in the world.
Victims and Movers.
Victims refuse responsibility and blame others. All butterflies have wings, including the victim-type. But these types don’t know they have wings and therefore, don’t flap them.
To have a victim mentality means to stop growing as a butterfly or a person. Your thoughts might go like this, “Those who killed Jesus, the unlucky ones in New York City on that day, and Santa are horrible people and deserve to be punished.”
Notice the verbiage: it’s them, not you.
As a victim, there’s nothing you could do differently. Your mindset removes all empowerment on your own part to become aware of what caused this act of hatred. And you have no role in preventing it from happening again.
Movers, on the other hand, accept responsibility and determine what they can do better. The mover-type butterfly understands that flapping her wings just might cause a hurricane.
Accepting responsibility and being proactive about your response when confronted with a stimulus is Stephen Covey’s first habit of highly effective people. (R.I.P. Mr. Covey. To see the gigantic footprint he left in the world, read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – affiliate link.)
To have a mover mentality means to understand how you can be responsible for making sure it doesn’t happen again. Your thoughts might go like this, “What did I do wrong? What can I do better? How can I affect the world in a more positive, visionary way?”
Notice the verbiage: it’s you, not them.
As a mover, your actions always have a consequence. The Butterfly Effect is real. Your mindset allows you to understand that hatred does not happen on an individual level, but on a population level. Something that each person has a say in. And that society’s mind, which is manifested by the Collective Consciousness of all of its individuals, adds up. Only for the mover does growth enter the conscious mind.
You Have Wings: Will You Flap Them Or Not?
The reality is that all butterflies have wings.
The choice then, is this: will you flap them?
You get to choose your mindset: victim or mover … Their fault or YOUR fault too.
We (everyone in society, including you) won’t kill our Jesuses, Martin Luther Kings, John F. Kennedys, NYC Workers, or Santas when we ALL own our parts and take responsibility for our worlds.
What can you take take responsibility and action for today that you’ve previously felt victimized by?
If you can make the choice to flap your wings, your life will change.
P.S. I recently found this video by Napoleon Hill, who wrote one of my favorite manifestation books, “Think and Grow Rich.” In this 10 minute video, he shares his first secret.
Dr. Christopher Stepien is a chiropractor, chronic pain specialist, and A.R.T. provider, and clinic director of the Barefoot Rehabilitation Clinic in Denville, NJ. He has been trained under the Integrative Diagnosis system for “clinical excellence”. He loves to help people pursue their own hero’s journey. Please reach out to him if he can be of a service in any way. It doesnt hurt to ask.