Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame. ~Erica Jong
When life hands you lemons … do the lemons stay lemons? Or do you make lemonade?
I don’t know about you, but I want me some lemonade!
How To Make Lemonade
What are the highest order values you live your life by?
I didn’t know the answer to this question until I was asked it three years ago by a fellow chiropractor and business coach, Jeff Slocum.
After much reflection, I had determined that all of my thoughts, words, and actions boiled down to:
- Compassion – loving others.
- Integrity – being truthful and real.
- Responsibility – doing my part.
If I wasn’t thinking, talking, or acting based on these three values, my happiness sufferred and still does when I am not keeping these in mind.
I imagine that your’s does too.
Let’s discuss the third value in the context of the world we live in.
What do you do with your lemons? Are you a victim to the lemon? Or are you moving and shaking, pressing and crushing those lemons into juice?
I wrote briefly about being a victim or being a mover after the Japan fiasco. (I highly recommend watching the 6 minute Will Smith video and reading The Alchemist if you haven’t read it yet).
The difference between lemons and lemonade comes down to responsibility.
Do you see yourself as a passive participant in the world? As someone who lets fate do all of the talking? Who blames anything and everything but yourself for where you are now? Who sees a lemon and says “There’s a lemon. Nothing I can do about that.”
Do you take responsibility for yourself? Are you an active participant in the world? For the person you are every day? For your place in life? For the life that you’ve created for yourself? Who says “There’s a lemon. Let’s juice the hell out of it!”
I’m fully convinced that anyone who achieves their goals, whether that’s losing ten pounds, getting out of chronic pain, getting a higher paying job, or finding happiness in the chaos of mental torment is NOT a victim. She is a mover. One who has chosen responsibility for themselves in their place in life. One who makes a darn tasty glass of lemonade with a dose of love mixed in.
Take Responsibility and Juice Away
Do you struggle to:
- get your health where you want it to be?
- to make as much money as you want to?
- to get your kids to behave the way you want them to?
- find happiness in the face of stress?
- create lasting change in your habits?
The truth is that your life is in your hands. The world is your playground, one where you can turn your dreams into reality, or not.
Once you choose responsibility, you can fully realize the power you have in your hands. And bowling ball-sized lemons are no match for you.
Are you making lemonade? Do you need my help?
I’m particularly good at making lemonade that is pain-free, healthy, fit, without chronic disease, and smiles for 120 years long (because that’s how long Homo sapiens are supposed to live).
Once again, if you want help, all you need to do is ask.
Dr. Christopher Stepien is a chiropractor, chronic pain specialist, and A.R.T. provider, and clinic director of the Barefoot Rehabilitation Clinic in Morristown, NJ. He practices out of Guerrilla Fitness: Crossfit Morristown and Crossfit Montclair.