When Life Hands You Lemons

by Dr. Christopher on October 3, 2011

Take your life in your own hands, and what happens?  A terrible thing:  no one to blame.  ~Erica Jong

When life hands you lemons … do the lemons stay lemons?  Or do you make lemonade?

I don’t know about you, but I want me some lemonade!

How To Make Lemonade

What are the highest order values you live your life by?

I didn’t know the answer to this question until I was asked it three years ago by a fellow chiropractor and business coach, Jeff Slocum.

After much reflection, I had determined that all of my thoughts, words, and actions boiled down to:

  1. Compassion – loving others.
  2. Integrity – being truthful and real.
  3. Responsibility – doing my part.

If I wasn’t thinking, talking, or acting based on these three values, my happiness sufferred and still does when I am not keeping these in mind.

I imagine that your’s does too.

Let’s discuss the third value in the context of the world we live in.

What do you do with your lemons?  Are you a victim to the lemon?  Or are you moving and shaking, pressing and crushing those lemons into juice?

I wrote briefly about being a victim or being a mover after the Japan fiasco. (I highly recommend watching the 6 minute Will Smith video and reading The Alchemist if you haven’t read it yet).

The difference between lemons and lemonade comes down to responsibility.

Do you see yourself as a passive participant in the world?  As someone who lets fate do all of the talking?  Who blames anything and everything but yourself for where you are now?  Who sees a lemon and says “There’s a lemon.  Nothing I can do about that.”

Or …

Do you take responsibility for yourself?  Are you an active participant in the world?  For the person you are every day?  For your place in life?  For the life that you’ve created for yourself?  Who says “There’s a lemon.  Let’s juice the hell out of it!”

I’m fully convinced that anyone who achieves their goals, whether that’s losing ten pounds, getting out of chronic pain, getting a higher paying job,  or finding happiness in the chaos of mental torment is NOT a victim.  She is a mover.  One who has chosen responsibility for themselves in their place in life.  One who makes a darn tasty glass of lemonade with a dose of love mixed in.

Take Responsibility and Juice Away

Do you struggle to:

  • get your health where you want it to be?
  • to make as much money as you want to?
  • to get your kids to behave the way you want them to?
  • find happiness in the face of stress?
  • create lasting change in your habits?

The truth is that your life is in your hands.  The world is your playground, one where you can turn your dreams into reality, or not.

Once you choose responsibility, you can fully realize the power you have in your hands.  And bowling ball-sized lemons are no match for you.

Are you making lemonade?  Do you need my help?

I’m particularly good at making lemonade that is pain-free, healthy, fit, without chronic disease, and smiles for 120 years long (because that’s how long Homo sapiens are supposed to live).

Once again, if you want help, all you need to do is ask.

Dr. Christopher Stepien is a chiropractor, chronic pain specialist, and A.R.T. provider, and clinic director of the Barefoot Rehabilitation Clinic in Morristown, NJ.  He practices out of Guerrilla Fitness: Crossfit Morristown and Crossfit Montclair.

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JANICE BOWMAN October 5, 2011 at 1:49 am

Hi I just wanted to write you a quick note to let you know I am currently underway on the Baring Sea with the Coast Guard in Alaska reading your blog. My best friend Meghan Santaniello, Chris’ sister, has been forwarding your posts for some time now. I absolutely love and am inspired by your philosophies and positivity. I have super slow internet and would greatly appreciate it if you could add me to your blogs 🙂 Thanks in advance!

Dr. Christopher October 5, 2011 at 10:20 am

HI JANICE!!!!! Alaska?!?! What a majestic place. I imagine that if you are friends with Meg, you are a very special person because of your association with her. That girl has something to her. Please tell her I say hello and give her my love. Thank you for letting me know that you enjoy the posts. These philosophies have helped me greatly in my life and continue to do so everyday. I only want to help others with them.

You want me to add you to my email list? Clarify how I can get these to you more efficiently and I will do so.

Stay present Janice!

Evon October 10, 2011 at 11:09 pm

Me too, I’m inspired by your philosophies, i’ll share this thoughts of yours to may other friends.
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Dr. Christopher October 11, 2011 at 8:35 am

I’m smiling that you enjoy it Evon!

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