Ben Roethlisberger, NFL quarterback for the Pittsburgh Steelers tribe, was suspended for four games following inappropriate conduct in his everyday life.
When asked what the hardest part of his punishment was, he claimed he didn’t care about the lost income. He didn’t care about the wins or losses. He said he just wanted to be back with “the guys.” His team. He wanted to be back with the group. The camaraderie, the shared journey, and the love for each other.
Humans are Social Animals
Spending the majority of our existence as hunters and gatherers, human beings lived in social groups. Being social is an evolutionary advantage because we share the workloads of life. Some can hunt, others can gather, a few can raise the children, and so on. The strong take care of the weak, the healthy for the sick, and the old for the young.
Dogs, cats, meerkats, fish, and dolphins are just a few animals who have also recognized the advantage of living in ‘social’ groups.
Unfortunately, most of us humans have forgotten this key ingredient to our health. Yes, we have our family and our friends. We make time to spend with them, to eat meals and go out for drinks with. But we don’t approach these relationships with a greater purpose that builds us up: in health of body, mind, and spirit.
We choose relationships based on our own insecurities or based on entertainment. While having fun is extremely important to relieve stress, it should not be of a primary interest when it comes to your health.
Think about it, why have you chosen your significant other? Your friends? Your co-workers? The people you spend time with on an everyday basis? Ask yourself these questions about each relationship in your life.
- Is this person someone who inspires you to be a better person?
- Is this person the type of person you want to be?
- Does he or she have similar values that you do?
- Does he or she cultivate your spirit, supporting your crazy ideas and asking questions to water the seeds of your dreams?
- Does he or she lift you up when you’re down instead of burying you even further?
- In your short time here on Earth (because even when you live to 120 years, it’s still not that long), is it worthwhile to spend time with this person, or are you wasting it?
Where’s Your Tribe?
So what is the name of the community, group, or tribe that you belong to? That makes you proud to be a part of?
I’m lucky in my life for having been a part of many such groups. I haven’t had the opportunity to join the military, but I understand that those guys have such a strong bond that their loyalty often costs them their lives. But being involved in athletics of different forms (football, baseball, and rugby) have allowed me to experience a type of kinship between teammates that I haven’t experienced in many other places.
Fortunately, the Crossfit community comes close. Crossfit Morristown is the tribe I’m now a part of, that has gracefully accepted me into their lives. We have the overarching purpose of desiring greater fitness and health, and using those components as a foundation for a dream-filled life. We value exercise, eating well, and we do what works. We work hard. We play hard. And we have fun. We care about eachother, and we support one another. And that’s why I’m proud to be a part of Crossfit Morristown. Because I’m proud to know each person, and I value the traits that they hold.
What it comes down to … they make me want to be a better person.
Lucky for you, Crossfit has gyms all across the world (listed by state and country on the left side of the page). So if you’d like a level of health and fitness that you never imagined for yourself, I suggest you give it a try. Because to be part of a group that makes you strive to be a better YOU is priceless.
What tribe are you a member of?